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Interview with Geek Turned Guru, Harris O' Malley (AKA Dr. Nerdlove)

Harris O'Malley (AKA Dr. NerdLove) is an internationally recognized blogger and dating coach who gives dating advice to geeks of all stripes. 

Since 2011, Harris has written for The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Buzzfeed, The Good Man Project, Lifehacker and many more. His blog, Paging Dr. NerdLove has been named one of the Top 10 geek dating blogs by

Our conversation covered a variety of topics including tips to conquer social anxiety, how to make the perfect approach and curate effortless conversation.

We also dove into the pond of self-reflection and discussed why most of the time we simply need to get out of our own way and let our authentic personality shine through.

What are the 3 most needed communication skills today? Why is listening the most underutilized conversation tool?  What are the worst first impression mistakes? Discover these answers and many more in this incredible interview.

If you've ever wanted a peek inside the world of PUA (Pick Up Artists) and why Harris left the community then you'll certainly enjoy hearing his transformation story.  

Finally, you can jump to your favorite sections of the interview by clicking the timestamps below. Enjoy :)​

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It’s really like a jedi-mind-trick. The best way to get someone to like you is to go into the conversation assuming that they already do. Attitude is destiny and that way you're priming yourself to see everything in the best possible light.

Harris O'Malley
Nerd Dating Coach, Founder Paging Dr. NerdLove

Wanna Skip Ahead? That's Totally Fine...

1:25... Who is Harris O'Malley?
5:00... How Harris reverse-engineered PUA tactics to create genuine, authentic relationships
7:00... The start of Dr. Nerdlove8:30... Pros and cons of the Pick-Up Community
10:25... Favorite lightbulb moments & success stories
12:10... Where to start to overcome social anxiety
15:20... How to use logic and exposure therapy to face your fears
18:45... Creating the perfect approach and conversation opening
20:15... Why listening is one of the most important conversational tools
24:10... It's time for you to get out of your own way
26:45... Top 3 communication skills needed today
28:45... Two types of terrible first dates
33:15... The worst mistakes you can make during a first impression
35:15... Who is an inspiration to you?
39:00... Book Recommendations {Sex at Dawn/What Do Women Want/How to Work A Room/The Charisma Myth}
41:30... Sex, Persuasion, & Pop Culture
43:50... Why you need to discover what you really want before pursuing it
44:40... If you could have a conversation with anyone
46:00... How to stay in touch with Dr. Nerdlove
47:30... Final words of wisdom

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Brandon & Sam currently live in Raleigh, NC and coach motivated professionals how to accelerate their careers, build quality relationships, and unleash their inner-awesome through teaching the secrets of charisma.

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